I really struggle to live in the moment.
I want so badly to live in the moment, I just, I don’t know, don’t. I’m notorious for getting stuck in my head. I always seem to worry about the future, what people think, what I look like, how will I do xyz. Then the next thing I know I am reflecting on my day and I realize that I was over stressed about the silliest things, or I wasn’t paying enough attention to something or worse someone. Does this sound like y’all? Oh, good! I am so glad I am not alone.
Through reading, podcasts, word of mouth, maybe written in the sky a few times… we all know there are major benefits to living in the moment. Did you know simply living in the moment can ease fears, boost concentration and make you better in bed… Oh, yeah, baby! And that’s just a list of my favs! Living in the moment is incredible. I wish I had a secret answer to help me do it every moment of every single blessed day.
Just the other day I got home and cried as I reflected on how not in the moment I was that day…. This was a big day for us.
He got to fly for the first time and we got to go to the beach for the first time in a year plus. Obviously, I was so excited…. Ooops… Mistake #1. That night after reflecting I realized that my biggest blunder was putting way too much pressure on me and this amazing day. Worse yet, putting too much pressure on my 2 year old son who has as much energy as the Tasmanian Devil. Perfection is the enemy of progress. And seriously who can live up to those expectations?! I can’t. I’m chugging along on the Mama Bear Hot Mess Express. I seriously dripped sweat the entire day. It was disgusting. And Duke pooped 4 times that day… like what the hell did this kid eat?! In conclusion… this day was just not destined to be “Perfect”
But guess what, it really was kind of perfect. We had so much fun and the next morning Duke woke up jabbering about how much fun he had. I got to spend the day exploring and learning the world with my son… How more perfect can a day get?! Maybe if I would have stopped trying to be perfect I could have seen just how perfect everything really was.
So, maybe you have the whole perfecting thing down. What about stress? I think this is one that is probably the easiest to correct, yet the hardest to correct..I live with postpartum anxiety so overwhelmed has become my daily state of being. It haunts my every move. But I have learned a few tricks to help me cope… Keep in mind I do none of these well. If I did I probably wouldn’t be writing this post, bitching about how much I suck at living in the moment… I digress… My favorite nugget is reminding myself to take one bite at time. I always say, How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. I get overwhelmed and stressed out because I look at the entire picture instead of that first brush stroke. Sound familiar? Sometimes though, saying my mantra doesn’t help. Sometimes I just have to do something. Anything! Just do something to get started so I can see nothing is impossible and I can do all things.
What about trying to hurry hurry, hurry? Are any of y’all guilty of the hurry up express? Me! However, you can’t rush life. Everything has it’s own time. Anyone who knows me knows I am a Southern Belle at heart… but apparently I lived in NYC too long and I get the hustle speed real quick. Recently I have been trying to slow down. I am working really hard to be mindful of everything I do… even how quickly I walk. Slow down. It is amazing how simply slowing down fixes so much of my Can’t Live In The Moment Ailments. When I focus on slowing down I find the I don’t stress, I breathe more, I forget about being perfect. I just… well, live in the moment! So maybe that is the magic trick to get me to live in the moment. Slow Down.
I will say that from what I know about living in the moment and being present… it’s a life long journey. You don’t wake up one day and say “Yep, today is the day. I am going to always and forever live in the moment.” I am sure there are people out there that can totally do that… And well, they suck. I mean it, with love, of course. But for real… we have got to, absolutely must, give ourselves a freaking break. Let it go (Don’t sing the song… HA!). Live your life the best you can. Remember, a big part of living in the moment is not living in the past. Don’t dwell on not living in the moment yesterday. Shrug it off and keep going. This moment needs your attention.
I hope this was helpful… Since I am totally on the struggle bus here and I am sure many of y’all are too it would be amazing if y’all could share some things that you do to stay present. Help a girl out!